Making Choices - How to Choose

Often, people tell me "I don't have a choice". They continue doing things that are unhealthy or unsatisfying even though they are miserable while doing them.

I think it is important to consider the types of choices that we face in life:

1. Too many choices - There is an interesting video on YouTube that describes the psychology adopted by Costco. Their inventory is based on research that suggests people with too many choices tend not to buy. When you shop there, you might only find a 180-tablet bottle of pain reliever rather than a range of sizes. You likely will purchase the one that they offer. They planned that!

Parents often complain about the fact that their child's room is frequently a mess. When you dig down for details about this you might hear that the child tries on an outfit in the morning and then quickly decides not to wear it that day. Instead of hanging it back up in the closet, the discarded outfit is just dropped on the floor. This can go on repeatedly for days and days until it is time to do the laundry. The child then just gathers up everything that is on the floor and, even though it is all clean, offers it up to the parent to wash. Perhaps the child has too many choices when it comes to clothing. Or toys. Or other possessions. Too many choices can cause a myriad of problems.

2. Not enough choices - When you are feeling "trapped" by life it is a good time to consider what is holding you back from making changes. Is it your own fears or negative attitude? Are you laden by so much debt that you are forced to keep putting one foot in front of another even though you don't like the path ahead of you? Are you living in an environment that stifles creative thinking?

No matter how limited your options might be, there are always choices that you can make. It might take time and sacrifice to pay down your debt, but you can do it! More education or another job search might just open a door that you couldn't previously see. Consulting with a professional or individual who has overcome trouble in the past might provide you with exactly the information and inspiration that you have needed.

3. Making healthy choices - Delayed gratification is the antidote for impulsivity. When you jump into something without gathering enough information or weighing the options, you will likely face regret.

We all want to have fun and nice things, but it is important to consider the difference between needs and wants. I frequently tell teenagers that growing up means doing all the things that you don't want to do - anyway! You need to get enough sleep and a healthy diet even if that means having to invest your time and efforts into planning and preparing for them. The good news is that once you have established a routine you will find realize the benefits.

This week think about the choices that you have and the ones that you have been neglecting. What could you do differently in the future to make your life happier and healthier?

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From Dr. Linda Hancock, Registered Psychologist and Registered Social Worker

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*BEWARE* This TALK Will Make You RETHINK YOUR ENTIRE LIFE AND WORK (life changer)

Beliefs Drive Our Actions

Sometimes people tell me how much they dislike Medicine Hat. They criticize the way the streets are laid out and find them confusing. They describe the river as "muddy" and the people as unfriendly. Others sing praises about our city. They like the unique layout, the fact that we have a river running through the middle of the community and describe the people as being kind and welcoming. Perceptions form beliefs and beliefs drive our actions.

Recently I have been making another attempt at fluency in the French language. I took classes in high school and again a few years ago with a group of "mature" students but never got to the level that I desired. I have also used a couple of apps, hired a private tutor and made some feeble attempts to greet the two francophones that I have met but still struggle. My vocabulary is fairly good, and I can read French quite well but frankly, my pronunciation sucks!

Last week, however, I was able to connect with a wonderful European French teacher who uses his study of psychological concepts to tutor individuals who have been "stuck" with the same disappointing progress that I have had.

It only took one class with this man to realize that the strategy he employs has exactly the same foundation as the ones I use in my private practice!

People who cannot speak French fluently (or any other second language) tend to believe that they will be embarrassed if they take the risk of trying to have a conversation. Their belief is that they will offend, not be understood or look foolish and this prevents them from trying. They focus on the things that do not improve their speaking skills - like reading, doing quizzes and studying at a theoretical level. They progress on paper but, at the same time, they believe that they will not be able to speak fluently in the timeframe that they desire.

Academic programs tend to teach vocabulary and grammatical structures that can feel overwhelming, especially when you might only need a few words and phrases to communicate about the things that interest you.

Clients often face the same challenges. They are "stuck" in a situation where they feel embarrassed, inadequate or frustrated. They come for help but often have already decided that they will not succeed. Failed attempts to change have not only affected their confidence but also strengthened their belief that things will not get better.

There is an old adage that states "Practice makes perfect". But practice takes time, involves making mistakes and presents risks that not everyone is willing to take.

What are the beliefs that are holding you back from doing something that you really want to do? Are you afraid that you cannot find a good friend or partner? Are you worried that you might not do well in a new job or academic program? Are you holding back from improving your health or financial situation because you don't believe you will succeed?

This week write a list of beliefs that are limiting your progress. Then write a list of things that you have accomplished in the past. Build up your belief and then start taking action towards your goal. One step at a time. One day at a time.

And remember to help those around you to think positively and build their belief levels and confidence through your encouragement and example.

Bonne chance!

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From Dr. Linda Hancock, Registered Psychologist and Registered Social Worker

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Jim Kwik: How to Break Bad Habits That Hold You Back (One of the Best Speeches Ever)

Yet Another Benefit Mind Training Has Over "Brain Training"

I've often criticised brain training - those cutesy computer games that supposedly make you smarter. It's easy to judge when they don't work. Stanford looked into the industry ages ago and found it was nothing but a pile of huge claims.

Play those games and you get better at them. That's about all you could honestly say about them.

Do the benefits translate into a sharper, healthier and more resilient brain? Stanford doesn't think so. And this is anecdotal, I know, but during my long stint of playing these games, I didn't notice much change in my everyday life.

Unlike with the stuff Stanford says does work - unsexy, commonsense things like exercise, socialising and getting your hands dirty. I noticed a difference once I started deliberately doing these.

But I can make another criticism of brain training. After all, maybe some of them do work. Perhaps tomorrow someone will invent a game that actually makes you smarter.

This, I think, is the most damning accusation:

Brain training games are boring.

Sure, they start off kinda fun. You click here and memorise that. It's all an exciting whirlwind of colours and shapes - especially as you get better at the game.

It gets old, fast. Eventually you start seeing it for all it is - a really simple computer game.

Mind training, on the other hand, is anything but boring.

It's like how exercise engages your entire body and mind. If one routine bores you, there are billions of things you can try. Is the gym no longer cutting it? Try jogging, tennis, dancing or gardening. Find the right activity and you'll struggle to feel bored.

That's how you know it works, in a way. The brain wants to grow stronger. Mind training works, so you never lose interest. In fact, the more you do it, the more you crave it.

It's the same with hypnotic trances. I can, and have, spent 9am to 6pm in various hypnotic states. What did I do as soon as I got home?

Put myself in a trance to experience it all over again.

Entering the trance state, whether through meditation or self-hypnosis, makes your mind stronger. It brings unconscious material into conscious awareness, expanding what you're capable of. And the brain is meant to do this in the way your arm muscle is meant to lift heavy things.

The more you do it, the smarter you become... and the more you crave it.

And it doesn't hurt that you can use hypnotic trances to clear old emotions, create new habits and access powerful mental states.

Because it's so natural, it isn't hard to learn. It takes the right sort of practice - like exercise, there's a right and wrong way to do it. Work with your mind and you'll learn quickly while having a ton of fun.

And I happen to have a self-hypnosis guide right here. Once you have this, you have everything you need to train your mind, enter trances and uncover great reservoirs of intelligence.

This skill changes everything. Once you grab it from here, you'll never look back:

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The hard truth about making your dreams come true | Mel Robbins Live

YOUR SUCCESS Is Much Closer Than You Realize (If You'll Only Stop Doing This)

When one of my clients, "Susan," an entrepreneur, first started working with me she was anxious about her lack of success in her own business. She wanted to make more money and have more clients, but that wasn't happening for her, even though she was very good at what she did.

During our initial coaching calls, she'd complain about what others in her industry were doing.

This has happened to all of us at one time or another.

These were some of the topics:

• The results they got for their clients (she thought her results were better)

• The amount of money they were charging their clients (which she thought was outrageous!)

• How they didn't have to promote their business (and how their clients "magically" came to work with them)

• How they had lots of partnerships with other successful people (Susan had none)

• They didn't "like" or "share" her social media posts (she never "liked" theirs)

• They didn't accept her event invitations (and she went to some of theirs)

• And, so on.

Not until I was able to get her to appreciate the success that others were having, did she start having more abundance that she desired. We did this powerful transformation through marketing strategies and a variety of mindset work, such as tapping, Laws of Attraction and neuroscience.

If you find that you're not having the results that you would like, I'm recommending that you ask yourself how you are talking and thinking about other successful people. Take some private time and journal what you come up with.

Here are a few questions to start you off.

When you think of others:

• Do you think of them positively or negatively?
• What do you say about their success when talking to others about them?
• Are you happy for their success? Do you believe they deserve it?
• How do you compare yourself to them?

As I teach my clients, you can't be "rich" if you think that all rich people are evil. You won't attract won't you don't like. That means you need to shift your mindset about what being wealthy means to you. As in the case with "Susan", you can't become successful if you're envious of others more successful than you.

This powerful transformational work can be challenging to do on your own. It may be time for you to hire an expert (me) to help you get to that next level.

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How to stop screwing yourself over | Mel Robbins | TEDxSF

Your True M.O.T.I.V.E. - 6 Ways To Tell Whether Your Goal Is Really Realistic

When we want to achieve a specific objective in life, whether it's to start a business, become a certain sort of person, improve our health, increase our confidence, one of the ways we can do this is to look at setting a goal.

Often, however, the goals we set ourselves aren't achieved. And there could be numerous factors that contribute to this, one of which could be that your goal wasn't realistic given who and where you are in your life right now.

We need to set bigger and bigger goals if we're to succeed in life and create the life we want. However, we also need to look at how we're going to get from here to there. If our goal is beyond what we see as being realistic, we risk dismissing it before we've event started to work towards it.

A popular model for goal establishment and achievement is the SMART approach. The 'R' of the SMART model stands for 'Realistic'. The others, as you may well know, stand for specific, measurable, achievable and time delimited.

But how do we know whether a goal is realistic or not? Perhaps we need to have a look at our true M.O.T.I.V.E. for achieving a particular goal, and see how realistic that goal really is. Five useful areas to question may well be the following:

1. M: How much Motivation do I have to achieve this goal to the standard I want to reach? And do I have the right motivation to complete it? If not, what do I need to do to increase my level of motivation to achieve the goal? Or how can I introduce more stepping stones on the ways to the goal so it's more achievable with the motivation I do have?

If your goal is to set up or grow a business and you find your motivation is low, what is it about that business model that's deterring you? Is it the right business for you? Have you done your research? Is the business viable? Is the business in alignment with who you are as a person? All these questions can begin to shed light on how to raise your motivation levels so that you can begin to move towards your goal.

2. O: Is what I want to achieve solely up to me or do I have to take Other people into consideration? If I'm taking someone else into consideration, how can we work on this goal together to ensure that both our needs are met? Is there compromise on either side? If so is one of us foregoing our own needs in favour of those of the other person? If this is the case, how can we work together to redress this balance?

In the case of a business, do you need a business partner, a consultant or an assistant in your business? Do you need to draft in the expertise of a business mentor or coach? Or do you simply need to sit down with a friend to hear a second opinion on what you're about to do? If others need to be involved how can you work together so that it's a win, win for both of you? These and other questions you may come up with will begin to help you understand how others may be able to help you reach your outcome.

3. T: How much Time do I have to achieve this goal to the standard I wish to reach? And do I have the right amount of time to complete it? If not, how can I extend the timeframe to achieve the goal? Or how can I change the goal so that it is more achievable in the time I do have?

Time is one of the keys to a successful venture. Your timeframe can be the difference between succeeding in reaching your goal and coming up short. If your timeframe is too short your brain will simply dismiss the goal because the belief that you can't reach your outcome in that space of time will sabotage your attempts to achieve that outcome.

Practise setting timeframes by timing every activity you undertake no matter how small. In this way you'll begin to get an understanding of how you work, and what kind of timeframes are practical and realistic for you. When you get into the habit of setting small timeframes for everyday tasks it becomes easier to set timeframes for your bigger goals.

4. I: What's my real level of Interest in this goal? And do I have the right amount of interest to see it to completion? If not, what can I do to make the goal more interesting, exciting and fun so that I have more Inspiration to achieve it?

Your level of interest is a vital barometer that will help you gauge whether your goal is the right one for you. You won't always necessarily be inspired and interested in the daily actions necessary to achieve your goal (the research, the planning, the administration, the reviewing, the tweaking, the changing... ) but your ultimate goal should at least interest you and ideally inspire you. If it doesn't it's time to look at why this is and whether this is really the right goal for you.

5. V: Is what I want to achieve a goal in its own right or is it part of a wider Vision? If so what's the vision and what's the goal... what is the difference between the two? If it is a vision, are there more goals I need to achieve alongside this one to reach the vision?

It's important to be able to rise up and look at the ultimate vision of where you want to go on a regular basis. Having this higher stance not only helps to put into perspective the individual goals you're working on, but also re-ignites your motivation, interest and inspiration to realize the vision.

6. E: How much Energy do I have to achieve this goal to the standard I wish to reach? And do I have the right amount of energy to complete it? If not, what do I need to do to increase my energy level to achieve the goal? Or how can I change the goal so that it is more achievable with the energy I do have?

Your energy levels will be an important determining factor in how well you achieve your goal. A simple way to establish how much energy you do have is to score your energy levels throughout the day. How energized are you in the mornings, the afternoons and the evenings?

Another useful measuring tool is to become aware of how you feel when you think of your goal. Are you energized when you think about it, or does your energy drop? If it drops look at the points above and consider what needs to be changed in terms of your goal to increase your energy.

These simple questions and sub-questions will begin to help you look at your goal from a more grounded perspective. They'll also assist you to make a better decision as to exactly what you wish to achieve... and whether what you wish to achieve is really realistic.

Carmen Gilfillan is the founder of Stimulus Development & Training. Stimulus specialises in helping people overcome emotional trauma, experience emotional breakthroughs and live their best lives. We do this through Life & Wellness Coaching, Emotional Freedom consultations and training in the areas of personal, professional and spiritual growth. Check out our website at http://www.stimulus.uk.com to book your free Emotional Breakthrough consultation.

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This Monk Will Change Your Worldview - A Chilling Message By DANDAPANI

The 1 Reason Most People Don't Succeed

Earlier this week I was trying to explain the universal grid that's at play to my 9-year old daughter. This came after I had a simple thought that morning - that I would love to start my day with a beach walk before any of my client calls. Not even two minutes later, my first scheduled client of the day asked if it was possible to move our call to later on! This is how the universe works. And what I explained to Ella is that the universe knows what's best for everyone involved. It doesn't open up my schedule for a beach walk at the detriment of someone else missing out on something. Moving the call worked better for my client too, and it was the gentle nudge from the universe that had her take action and reach out to see if it worked. Inspired action still has to take place.

One of my friends posted this pic later on in the week, and it's literally the image I was picturing and even tried to do a Google search to find to show Ella. We're just a dot, or some would argue an idea (deep I know), in the vast universe. The universe knows exactly how to make everyone happy and how to make it happen so that it works for EVERYONE. We just have to notice the guidance and say yes to it. Imagine trying to figure out all of these pieces on our own! Yikes. Thank goodness we don't have to worry about "how" to make everything we're seeking happen.

So why doesn't everyone tap into this? Well, unfortunately these are airy-fairy concepts for some, and the stories they tell themselves keep them exactly where they are as a result. Unfulfilled, unhappy, and tirelessly grinding it out.

Read today's article for the number one reason that holds people back and how to move through it too.

So why is it that most people don't reach their big dreams?!

1. Well, they start worrying about how they're going to make them happen and talk themselves right out of going for it!

OR..

2. If they have decided to go for it, they let all of the negative self-talk and stories conditioned into their brain from their past stop them from moving forward.

It depends on which stage of the process you're at.

I tend to see more of the second, as I typically work with people who have already said yes to their entrepreneurial dreams. However, the first does still pop-up when they are still not quite where they want to be and continue to dream of more - a better lifestyle, more support, greater ease - and this is typically after grinding it out and then becoming overwhelmed.

So how do we move through this?

Well, with #1. I've found the most helpful thought process is to start seeing evidence in your life and what you have already created, of their being something bigger at play. The universe (insert own belief system here as to what that higher power is to you), is always guiding us and has a plan far bigger than we ever could have created for ourselves. Look at how you just "knew" to make that phone call or follow-up with someone on a "hunch", and it ended up leading to something great. That's the guidance we all have there for us.

When we can step into that belief system, we can start to let go of "how" we're going to make things happen and start having "trust" and "faith" in what we cannot see. Until we see the evidence to support it of course. I've seen it over-and-over in my own life and those of my clients, that it is now too difficult to deny and has become a belief I know to be true at my core. I've seen enough evidence to support it. Do I forget it's there for me sometimes - yep - it's a constant wake-up call, and I would even go as far to say it's an awareness on just how deep we can go with the guidance. Where we can literally get support for all of our thoughts and don't even have to "think" our way out of anything really. But it involves a consistent state of asking and then being open to receiving.

Which brings me to #2. With this one, I see many people getting stuck in old stories and beliefs from childhood (many aren't even aware of what thoughts and ideas they have accepted to be true) that keep them stuck in an energy that is not conducive to receiving the guidance.

What you put out you get back - so if you feel unworthy or not good enough deep down - that's the energy you're putting our regardless of what you "say" you are wanting. Your subconscious is steering the ship and it comes down to the beliefs and feelings you have stored away in there.

Quick example: You can think; "I would love to be successful", but deep down if you "feel" successful people are in some way rude or arrogant, you will not want to be successful because it violates your value system. Instead you operate from the feelings you have associated with success instead of what you're saying you want.

That's just one example and it shows-up in a myriad of ways - procrastination being another.

Unfortunately these things show-up even more strongly when we run our own business. Because we're putting ourselves out there in new and unprecedented ways, and this feels threatening to our subconscious mind, which wants us to stay safe. Growing doesn't feel safe. So it will literally show you every reason in the book to stay small - "I'm too tired", "I'll do it tomorrow", etc. and it gets your agreement to stop.

The way to shift this is to start looking deep down at what you believe that's causing you to be where you are. This can be tough to do alone - it's hard to see our own blind spots - and this is definitely where I recommend getting some support.

Be willing to go there. It's hard to look at this crap, but completely worth it.

Then you can start to shine a light on those beliefs, and start reaffirming the belief you want instead over-and-over and add it the emotional feelings of how it will feel to curate what you're wanting.

For me it was: Your Success is Certain.

And then what that would look like if it was true- how it would feel.

You will then start to make decisions and behave from this line of thinking, thus creating what you have been envisioning.

You strengthen the new belief because now you have evidence of it in your life.

Your subconscious realizes it's safe to think and behave from this place, and this becomes the new norm.

The two combined together - faith in something bigger than you, and replacing old belief systems no longer serving you - is the winning combination.

Because what you put out always, without fail, comes back.

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Nikola Tesla Code Secrets/3,6,9? How To Manifest Anything You Want-The Secret-Wealth/Success/Job etc

What Do You Want Your Legacy To Be?

Your Legacy

What will people say about you when you are gone? What is your legacy? Mark Twain said that people will miss you so much that even the undertaker will feel sad. What kind of mark will you leave on the world? Will it be a better place because you were born? Will the world have more compassion, more love, and more hope because you lived your life with high ideals? Do you put the needs of others first? Do you look for ways to serve and to help?

I have the pleasure of working part-time in a nursing home. I crossed paths with one of the residents while on the way to the rest room. Both of us were in dire need. She asked me if the restroom was available. I said it will be in a few moments. I felt the sting of my words and decided to let her in first. It was not my finest moment. Thank goodness I came to my senses. I almost missed a chance to show kindness and concern.

Think about people who have left a positive world footprint. Rosa Parks left a legacy of change. Dr. Martin Luther King left a legacy of equity between races. Billy Graham will leave a legacy of redemption.

Think about your own life. There are over seven billion people on planet earth. It's easy to think that one individual's legacy can make a difference. Rosa Parks was an ordinary citizen who refused to give up her seat on that bus. What if she backed down and failed to state her cause? What if she took the easy way out and decided not to take a stand? What if she stood up and let someone else take her seat? An ordinary seamstress did an extraordinary thing. What can you do to make a difference? What is your legacy?

How do you want to be remembered? What will they say at your memorial service? Do you want to leave an indelible stamp of love, hope, and fulfillment? Or do you want to leave negative energies behind? I choose to make a positive imprint on the world. I would like the planet to be a better place because of my influence.

At the end I will ask myself if I left a legacy of peace or one of dissent. I will ask myself if I left a legacy of harmony or one of dissonance. I will ask myself if I left a legacy of hope or one of despair.

I'm Barbara Altman
Raised in an alcoholic home, I became depressed and riddled with anxiety at an early age. In an effort to build a good life. Over the years, I have dealt with depression in a variety of ways, from counseling to alternative and traditional healing modalities. One of the purposes in my life is to convey hope to those who have suffered from depression and I hope to do this in my writings and in speaking engagements.,"... I am the author of Passages to Hope, 52 Real Life Stories That Will Inspire and Encourage You."

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Stop saying "I Want", and start saying "I Have!" (Law of Attraction)

Creating Your Success: Stoking Your Creativity

Your Creativity:

Create your success by stoking your creativity.

When I signed up for toastmaster's, I brought all my passion and zeal to every speech. I was on fire. A year and a half later, my steam has been reduced to a mere trickle of conviction. I have trouble winning contests. I've embarrassed myself when I tried taking on the humor role. And my drive to help others build success has taken a long road trip.

When I was a child, one of my aunt's called me stupid. "Stupid." That word rang in my ears loud and clear. My high school report cards all included "under achieves" No matter what I did or what I tried, I could not win those gold ribbons given out every quarter to the best students. So I gave up trying.

So what can you do to fan the flames of your creativity when the well has run dry. Let's take a look at several suggestions.

1. Carry a notebook with you. Write down inspiring messages from sermons, from the radio, and from social media. Let those messages sear into your brain and produce sparks of creativity.
2. Spend time reciting positive quotes from the Bible, from affirmation cards, or from the wisdom of your friends. I spend about thirty minutes a night exercising. I like to speak inspirational thoughts as I'm moving about.
3. Test out your ideas with your friends. Had I run my toastmaster's "joke" by a few friends, I would not have embarrassed myself today.
4. Know from the deepest part of you being that we were all born to make a positive impact on the world. Claim that mission and exercise your creativity to the max. When you begin to run dry, proceed to fan those flames until they return brighter and more luminous than ever.
5. Make a commitment to a higher power. Ask for help from God as you know him. He will always come through and pull you through the darkest times. We don't know how brightly we can shine until the fire has dimmed a bit. This is a temporary state which. by definition, does not last forever. None of us are defined by our successes. Nor are we diminished by our "failures." Make the determination to climb that ladder of success by creating success embers. Push yourself past the can't's and move on to reach the stars. Stoke your creativity.

I'm Barbara Altman
Raised in an alcoholic home, I became depressed and riddled with anxiety at an early age. In an effort to build a good life. Over the years, I have dealt with depression in a variety of ways, from counseling to alternative and traditional healing modalities. One of the purposes in my life is to convey hope to those who have suffered from depression and I hope to do this in my writings and in speaking engagements.
Author of "Recovering From Depression, Anxiety, and Psychosis," formerly called "Cry Depression,"...

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Wayne Dyer - Ways to Awaken Your Hidden Power

What's So Important About Having Dreams?

Too busy competing with the rat race? Ever contemplated what your real dreams are? Figure out for yourself and follow your dreams. You will stand out from the rat race and live life to the fullest. How is it possible? Read on to find out.

Having dreams and following them is important because it makes your life meaningful and worthwhile. You will feel the drive and enjoy the mojo of life. You are excited and passionate all the time.

What are examples of some dreams that you could have?

1. To lose your weight to your ideal weight.
2. To earn seven figures every month.
3. To have a wonderful and loyal spouse.
4. To have beautiful children.
5. To have a mansion to live.
6. To have a Mercedes-Benz to drive.
7. To be financially free.

How do you materialize your dreams? You will have to figure out yourself. Have a mentor and a person accountable to make your desires come true. This person could be a friend or mentor himself. Make each dream a goal.

For instance, the first dream could be converted to a goal as follows:

I lose my weight to 65 kg by July 31^st, 2019 about two months from now.

Next determine how you will achieve your goal conveniently and smoothly.

To achieve my weight loss goal, I will cut off portions from my meals. In fact, I will eat smaller portions. I will cut off rice and sugar from my diet. In the evening, I will walk for 10 minutes around the block every day.

Start slow and persevere. You will realize it is the best way to achieve your goal.

Keep images of slim figures on a board where you can see every day. Then visualize yourself to be slim. Day dream for a few minutes several times during the day. And also carry on your action plan.

Together with your action plan and visualization you will meet your goal and have it materialized.

Try the same procedure with other dreams. Consult your mentor and accountability person. And repeat the whole process. It may be mentioned here for best results and to avoid confusion and chaos, work on only one dream at a time.

Try with easy dreams first and as your confidence soars, take on harder and more impossible dreams. Challenge yourself gradually and you will learn to play the game of life very well, winning and grinning all the time.

There is another tip I would like to pour over here. Music and songs on dreams help you to realize your dreams faster. Play and sing them and carry on with dream goals. It will further motivate you. I mention here one of my favorite songs on dreams. It is an ABBA song with the title, "I have a dream". The first few lines of the song are as follows:

" I have a dream -

a song to sing

To help me cope

with everything.

If you see the wonder

of the fairy tale,

you can take the future

even if you fail.

I believe in angels

something good in everything I see.

I believe in angels

when the time is right for me.

I will cross the street

I have a dream."

So what do you think? Does it resonate with you? Will it help you to achieve your dreams faster in high and low times? Hopefully it will. Otherwise follow some other song that you love on dreams. Sing it, live it, dream it and achieve it! Gotcha?

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Jim Rohn - the greatest Advice ever

State and Growth

Near the beginning of each year, politicians usually present a speech that summarizes what s/he believes is extremely important about the state of the constituency they represent. Topics that are usually addressed in that speech include:

1. Team players - The people who have had significant roles are usually introduced and congratulated for the time, effort and wisdom that they have invested.
2. Values - Communities and groups are usually bonded together by shared values. Desire for safety, growth, freedom and opportunity can become strong motivators during the decision-making process and actions that are taken.
3. Progress and achievements - There is always time allotted in the addressed for bragging. Laws passed, buildings erected, and projects completed are described with pride.
4. Responsibilities and accountability - Although this part of the presentation is usually not emphasized, there is usually mention of decisions that were criticized or viewed as ineffective. Historical information may be used to enlighten the listeners and provide insight about how events unfolded and why they were not handled effectively.
5. Inspirations - The stories of individuals who sacrificed personally or professionally to better others are often told to encourage listeners. The more extraordinary the hero accomplishment, the more powerful the presentation.
6. Goals - Strong leaders usually have clear vision for the days ahead and can describe the plans laid out as well as expected deadlines for achievement.
7. Threats and dangers - Describing the negatives and barriers that the leaders are realistically encountering educates listeners and can motivate them to offer support.
8. Confidence - Voters want to feel good about those who were elected to represent them, and confidence will grow if and when successes are realized. Trust builds confidence.

You don't need to be a large country or even a city to examine these topics.

Perhaps it is time for you to evaluate your own personal state. Name the individuals who have played important roles in your life. Consider the values that underlie your decision-making. Pat yourself on the back for the things that you have done well and take responsibility for the things you could have done better. Think about what has and continues to inspire you.

Think about the goals that you want to realize this year as well as the things that might interfere with your progress.

Finally, trust yourself and enter the upcoming days with confidence!

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From Dr. Linda Hancock, Registered Psychologist and Registered Social Worker

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TRUTH About The Law of Attraction - by Wayne Dyer | Secret Attract Success Mentor

Tolerations Steal Productivity

A few years ago, I hired a personal coach. She taught me a wonderful concept that I have used to this day.

A toleration is something that drains our time and energy. It may be as small as a missing button or pile of paperwork that hasn't been sorted. It may be something larger like a vehicle that doesn't run or finishing a renovation project.

The problem is that we all tend to tolerate the things that drain our time, energy and patience. We put up with a messy garage and the fact that we cannot find the screwdriver that we need. We dig through closets looking for an outfit and then realize that it is wrinkled, and we can't wear it without investing more time and effort.

If you want to gain back time and feel more in control, consider how you can eliminate the things that you are tolerating.

Begin by making a list of as many tolerations that you can think of even If you don't see a solution for dealing with them at first. Keep adding to the list until you have at least one hundred things that you are tolerating. I think you will be surprised about how many things are "bugging". Up until you now you have just ignored them and tried to work around them.

Once you have the list you will also likely be surprised by how many things are not only stealing your energy but also being neglected.

Next, go through the list and choose one thing that you can fix that will resolve several other things automatically. For example, if you clean the garage will it allow you to find tools more easily? Will you be able to park your car inside rather than having to park outside?

Success breeds success and in a short period of time you will be proud of your accomplishments and ready for more. There is great satisfaction in crossing things off the list. But remember, this is not a static project.

It is a process and you will need to keep adding things to the list.

Finally, develop a plan so that you won't have recurrence of the same things over and over again. I remember my Home Ec teacher in high school saying over and over again "Have a place for everything and keep everything in its place"

If you don't have a place for everything, perhaps you have too many things and need to downsize. Or maybe you need an organizer to help you with the initial plan.

If you have a place for everything and you don't keep it in its place, perhaps you need to have a talk with yourself and develop some self-discipline.

So, let's begin. Take a blank sheet of paper and draw a line vertically down the middle. Label each column - one will be "Personal" and the other "Work". Then start writing down at least one hundred things that you have been tolerating. You have just taken the first step towards success!

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From Dr. Linda Hancock, Registered Psychologist and Registered Social Worker

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You don't think you deserve it | Mel Robbins

Should You Listen?

Many times, people hear criticism and hold onto it for years allowing it to foster shame. It is important to remember that the people who made the comments might be "talking out of their hat" as the expression goes, before allowing their words to be damaging. Make sure that you do not allow the criticism to facilitate low self-esteem or paralyze you when it comes to moving forward your goals.

Before you take another person's comments to heart, consider the following reasons why they were given:

1. Intent - What is the reason that the words were spoken. Did the other person really care about you or were they jealous, mean-spirited or wanting to see you fail? Understanding motivation can help you decipher whether to latch on or not.
2. Anonymity - Don't ever take criticism seriously if it is done by someone who does not reveal their identity. Individuals who are passive-aggressive tend to write unsigned letters or act as snipers who sow rumors and gossip while hiding in the shadows.
3. Impulsivity - Unfortunately, many people do not put a lot of thought into what they say. They just let words spill out of their mouths without ensuring that they are true or even communicating their message accurately.
4. Credibility - Does the person who is offering their opinion experienced or reputable? I never take financial advice from someone who is poor or parenting tips from people who have never parented. Good advice usually comes from people who have achieved success a specific area.
5. Understanding - Does the person have the whole picture? Perhaps they are making statements before they have all the information? Maybe they think that their words would help you without really knowing how you function.
6. Bias - Some people are just narrow minded. They think that they know best and are not open to the fact that there is more than one way to go something.
7. Emotions - Fear can cause people to think negatively and become immobilized. Big goals can scare people who begin listing all the reasons why your plans will fail and share their fears with you.
8. Responsibility - Some people care too much and don't know where healthy boundaries should be. They don't know where they stop, and you begin. As a result, they think that they need to protect you even when you are a mature adult.
9. Values - Black and white thinking does not leave room for grey. Many individuals think that it is important to do what they believe "should" happen. They value having things done following specific rules and are not open to new ideas.
10. Validity - Perhaps you really need some good advice because you are heading for trouble! Always consider the fact that the person who is offering an opinion, might truly care about you and have a nugget of wisdom that would truly help you.

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From Dr. Linda Hancock, Registered Psychologist and Registered Social Worker

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MM #11 HUSTLE : The Dream Is Free [HD] Ft. Eric Thomas , Kevin Hart , Steve Harvey , Bernie Mac

Systems Make Everything Easier

Recently I wasn't feeling well. My head hurt. I was dizzy and the bathroom was barely close enough. My system was a mess!

Our bodies have several different systems. One is for digestion. Another involves lymph nodes. We have a system for blood circulation as well as several others.

It is not just the body that has systems. For example, there are transit systems, accounting systems, justice and security systems. At a personal level, we can all benefit from having systems both at home and in the workplace.

Here are some of the unique things to consider about systems:

1. They consist of several parts or steps.
2. It usually takes thought and planning to create a good system.
3. There are many resources available that provide ideas to help you.
4. Systems will usually save time and energy.
5. When one-part malfunctions, the whole system is negatively affected.
6. Maintenance and upgrades may be required to ensure efficiency.
7. People have different opinions about which systems are working well for them and which aren't so it is important to consider feedback from those who will be affected.
8. Tried and true systems last over time.

What are some of the systems that you need to create or to review in your life? Is your desk covered with paper and files? Are you struggling to find things in your garage? Perhaps you are regularly late for commitments and need to have a system to facilitate.

Do you find that you are spending a lot of money because you never have a menu plan or grocery list? Are you finding it difficult to clean because your appliances aren't working properly?

Perhaps you are feeling unwell because you haven't had nutritious meals or enough rest.

A system can be as easy as implementing things that you already have in your life. It involves setting up a process to get things done easily. For example, when you have taken out the meat for supper in advance, you don't have to come up with a plan at the last minute. Treating your washing machine, dryer and dishwasher as unpaid help allow you to feel control. Just load them up and push the buttons so they can work for you.

This week invest time in planning ways that you can develop or improve systems in your life. You will feel more in control and will notice that your productivity increases.

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From Dr. Linda Hancock, Registered Psychologist and Registered Social Worker

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The Shocking Truth About Your Future! | Robert Kiyosaki

How To Apply The Law Of Attraction Step By Step

To "apply" the law of attraction to bring about different or more attractive circumstances in our lives, we must first understand how it works. The movie The Secret has made the awareness of the law of attraction more widespread. But many don't fully understand it properly because in The Secret, it is depicted quite simply. Some might even say that it simplifies the law too much.

The main theme of the film is that we are creators, either consciously or unconsciously. Most of the time we create our lives on an unconscious level, by replaying old programs, thoughts and beliefs which don't serve us.

For example, we often complain about our circumstances, attracting emotional attachment to them through our strong emotions and words, trying to push them away. But in fact we only instil them into our experience by giving them more attention and power.

When we start to associate these events with who we are, we run these programs for our whole lifetime, believing that life is our self-imposed identity.

When we become more conscious, and learn to apply the law of attraction for a better life, we can take more charge of what we want and create better outcomes. How do we do this?

Applying the law of attraction for increased prosperity, health and happiness can take some time. After all, you've been manifesting your current circumstances for many years. You can't turn it all around overnight.

Start by becoming conscious of the words you speak, the thoughts you think and the emotions you are feeling on a daily basis. Whet events do you talk about and think about? How do you feel about yourself? These are important signs which point towards where your life is going. If all you do is complain all day, how is this creating a better life?

The first step is to become more conscious of your thinking. Thoughts really do become things. It may take several years to see evidence of this, but it all starts with your thinking.

As Henry Ford said "Whether a man thinks he can or he can't, he's right".

How do you become more conscious of your thinking habits? Notice them. You can learn meditation too, to help quieten down your inner chatter. You mind talks to itself on a near constant basis. Meditation allows you to watch the mind without entering into the identity of the 'talker'.

Listen also to yourself when you talk. What do you talk about and in particular when do you talk with passion or emotion about a certain topic? Noticing your self talk and what you say out loud will help you see where you're giving your attention, what you give value to and how you think about feel about the circumstances of your life.

Quit complaining! Complaining can become a habit which gives credit to the idea of continually suffering. It's a learned behaviour which can stem from gaining attention from a parent from childhood. The problem is complaining sends a signal to the unconscious mind of strong emotion. This is addictive. The more you complain though, the more things you attract to complain about. Whenever you give a strong emotion to something you don't want, trying to push is away, you give more attention to it and it grows in your experience.

Start a gratitude journal in place of your complaining. Gratitude is generally what we ultimately want in life. Without gratitude, the mind can't long sustain a level of happiness without wanting more and seeking more. Gratitude is the opposite of complaining. We are grateful usually only for short periods of time. When you focus on something it grows. So focus on the things you're already grateful for and develop this as a daily habit.

Visualisation is another tool for manifesting the life you ultimately want. We often unconsciously visualise arguments with our partners or bosses. We use visualisation to create the things we don't want, much like complaining.

To use visualisation effectively we must first get very clear on what we want from life. What circumstances and situations do you want to attract? How do you feel when you imagine it. Put energy into living these experiences in your mind, and you will 'teach' your unconscious mind to focus on those things and bring them into your life.

Affirmations are another tool to help you create more of what you want in life. Much like complaining and visualisation, we often use affirmations to affirm the things we don't really want. "I never catch a break". "I'm no good at this" and so on.

To use affirmations positively, we need to pronounce that which we want to draw into our experience and keep telling ourselves that message.

In order to make change in our lives, we must change. We must become better versions of ourselves to attract those things we say we want and we must believe that we deserve it too. You can't think positively on the surface while secretly feeling terrible on the inside and expect a magnificent change. You must take on your whole self and revamp your whole thought processes, beliefs and attitudes if you want lasting change.

The Secret film may have you believe that you can simply think a few nice thoughts and manifest miracles in your sleep. But what The Secret is saying is not so simple. It's far deeper and more engrained in your thinking and belief systems. To make huge changes in your outer life, you need to look within and examine your inner mind.

Becoming more conscious is the first step on this journey.

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5 Steps to Becoming a Millionaire - Grant Cardone Trains His Sales Team LIVE

Creativity - Do You Use It?

Many of my clients over the years have expressed concern about finances and wished they could relieve their debt burdens. But compounding interest and late fee penalties make the goal more and more unreachable.

Recently I watched some episodes from a British show entitled "How to Live Mortgage Free". I was amazed at what was accomplished by those who were determined to improve their lives by eliminating their mortgage.

Some of those who were featured wanted to accomplish this in preparation for their retirement. Others were younger. One couple set and reached their debt-free status before they were thirty years of age.

The ideas they used included renovating abandoned structures such as a barn, church or office. One couple didn't want to leave the house where they had raised their children so they sub-divided it into two houses and sold one. A young couple built their first home on the top of two trailer beds in a fashion that allowed them to move the whole thing at a later date if they desired.

A single father gutted and redesigned an Airstream trailer for himself and his daughter. An engineer turned a two-story bus into a home complete with elevator and mobile tracks so that his disabled wife could maneuver easily throughout.

One single mom told about how she reduced her mortgage from thirty years to eight by being thrifty and depositing the equivalent of twenty-five extra dollars at a time against the balance.

A couple who had lived on a boat for twenty-five years built a smaller one that was more affordable and then sold the first to pay off all their debt.

This series reminded me of the things that are needed in order to achieve success:

1. A goal. It must be clear and reasonable. All of the individuals in the show also had a realistic timeline for completion.
2. Sacrifice. It took many, many months and in some cases years of labour to complete the projects. Also, reduced square footage required down-sizing of possessions.
3. Skills. Many learned how to build as they went, but some had carpentry, engineering, or sewing expertise before they started.
4. Money. The people involved needed a place to stay while they were preparing their new homes. The initial costs for purchasing land, structures or materials were paid with savings or at least one continuing to work for income.
5. Research. Many of the homes were built with second-hand fixtures and designed after study of magazines and examples of projects completed by others.
6. Consulting. Asking for advice from people who have expertise was a key element of the projects.
7. Creativity. Small spaces were used wisely to accommodate the residents who were moving in.

If you are struggling with financial issues, perhaps you could adopt the above principles. You don't have to necessarily pay off your mortgage but you could significantly improve your financial situation!

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From Dr. Linda Hancock, Registered Psychologist and Registered Social Worker

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Arnold Schwarzenegger 2019 - The speech that broke the internet - Motivational & Inspiring

Silent Saboteur - The Hidden Elements of Negativity

So, you're out there setting positive goals for yourself. You are putting out good thoughts towards achieving them, practicing self-care and speaking positively, but you're not yielding a return on your positive investment. Now you find yourself sliding down the frustration pole and heading straight towards the cynical stage. Well, not so fast! Let's have a look at the undercover work of negativity to see if perhaps it still has a silent, yet powerful, role in your positive endeavors.

I want to be very clear here about the true definition of positive thinking, acting and being. Positive is not the denial of negative circumstances, avoidance of addressing growth curves accurately, nor is it giving you, or others, BS compliments. Positive means the general energy behind your words and actions. If that energy is not positive, the power behind the intention of your actions and words are diminished. IF you want to make a big impact in your own life, be it an external goal or changing something about yourself, you have to have the right energy behind your words and actions. If you do not, you're undercutting yourself and sabotaging your own intentions.

So, here is the hunt for subtle negativity questionnaire:

Please note, these are deep dive questions. They are not easy, and the truth may sting a bit. BUT, if you want to feel better, you will answer from a place of brutal honesty. Because the only way to align yourself with the energy needed to change, is to get real. Otherwise, this type of negative thinking and behaving will continue to water down and sabotage your efforts.

1. What are your true feelings when you are witnessing those around you happy, having fun, succeeding, and/or prospering?

Now most of you will say, I love to see my friends and family happy and succeeding. For the most part that may be true... but let's keep digging to see if it's REALLY true.

2. Do you think and speak, sarcastically about people's character, personality, looks and/or accomplishments behind their back? Or do you find a way to diminish or knock them down behind their back around others?

3. When no one is around, do you swim in jealous and negative thoughts about others who are thriving?

4. Do you secretly get angry when you hear others praise a friend, family member, colleague or peer's accomplishments, achievements or character?

These questions are big ones. They are dredging the muck at the bottom of our Ego Sewer. The place where we hide our feelings of not being good enough. Our Ego Sewer is the secret place where we cover our up our true, ugly and negative feelings by knocking other people down. We then surround ourselves with a little camp of people swimming in their own muck to help us stay satisfied with our position and justified in our sentiments.

The key thing to understand is that our mind fixates on others to keep us insulated from tending to the uncomfortable and painful places in ourselves. We make others the villain, the obstacle, the problem in order to distance ourselves from feeling inferior and inadequate. But it doesn't work. Indulging in the muck only adds to the negative feelings and thickens the mucky waters. You are only making it even harder to change and feel better.

So, now is the time to address this stuff head on. You CAN DO THIS! Shying away from the hard work of healing your self-esteem issues is not in your best interest. This will continue to secretly rob you of achieving your highest goals and potential and most importantly, of feeling really good about yourself without having to do or be anything. In other words, unconditionally accepting yourself. Male or female, we ALL need to feel good about ourselves for health and balance.

Let your next goal be to feel comfortable and confident in your own skin without the defensive armor of secret negativity. Because the only thing we are doing with this type of thinking and behaving is protecting our ego. Jealousy and denial are defense mechanisms and swimming there for long periods of time, is corrosive to our well-being.

So now is the time! Find a trusted counselor, therapist or coach, put your HAZMAT suit on and go in and purify your waters. Thriving doesn't fall into our laps, it takes work and that work is important. Celebrities, corporate moguls, models, billionaires: we all have our secret saboteurs. Insecurities are inherent in all of us. When you hide them from yourself, you are silently sabotaging all your good intentions and weakening the potency of your success and achievements. So, dive in and get clean. You deserve to feel good about being you!

I am passionate about helping individuals make positive changes in their personal and professional lives. I lead by example and provide viable solutions and strategies for success. Motivation abounds at Positive Constructs. So if you are truly looking to make positive changes that stick, then you have found the right place. positiveconstructs.com

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